had a very cool chat with one of the guests at our friendsgiving gathering earlier in the week; mentioned that I'm interested in getting into the local kink scene and they gave me an invite link to a google doc questionnaire for joining a local group. very good & straightforward questionnaire, had all the important questions like "define consent" and "fill in the blank; trans and nonbinary people are ____" and all that
yesterday I got confirmation that I've been accepted to the group, and apparently one of its admins is... someone I recognize. specifically, for their ableism and shitty behavior towards one of my partners, and for this one party we were at together where they simply Could Not Help Themself from bragging about their intense road rage, as if it is Very Cool And Also Normal to be throwing full drinks at other cars on the highway. soooooo that's cool I guess lmao
(the friend I met who sent me the link is also disabled, so no idea whether they have any beef with this group admin or whether said admin has improved over the past 4-ish years since I last saw them. I suppose at some point, since I am a full adult and I can make my own choices about existing in spaces with people who have been shitty to me/my partners, I'll get to attend an event and see for myself where they're at these days)