i'm not a fan of gatekeeping labels because a lot of people don't neatly fall into one category or another one
For example, for many types of neurodivergence I've always felt like I exist somewhere in the middle between neurotypical and neurodivergent1. Like, when I listen to and observe neurodivergent people I sometimes relate to them but not completely and, vice versa, when I listen to and observe neurotypical people I also sometimes relate to them but also not completely. Along each axis I have some behaviors and qualities that make me very well-adjusted in normal society and some behaviors that make me very queer and … uh … unpalatable to normies.
One example of this is that one of my friends once commented that I was the "most cis trans person" that they knew, because I was more well-adjusted than most trans women they knew2. Like, for a lot of people (like my friend) they seem to subscribe to this binary belief that you're either overtly queer or you're a cishet neurotypical normie and they don't hold space for people like me who live somewhere in the middle who aren't as legible to them.
This is one of the reasons that I'm a big proponent of self ID for basically everything (including gender and neurodivergence) because I don't think it's helpful to police the boundary between various categories and there's a lot to gain by letting people peacefully inhabit that grey area that can't be easily labeled or categorized.
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You could argue that somewhere in the middle is itself neurodivergent but I think it's safe to say that for many things I pretty commonly fall in the grey area that most gatekeepers would police.
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I think this was kind of a problematic comment and I neither agree with it nor endorse it, but I let it slide and I'm just using it as an illustrative example.