I do wish you could be as tall as male au ra if you picked the female body though, they've both got good designs but I have hangups about presenting as a dude in social things, so, would rather be a girl, but ideally a girl over 6ft, because no MMO is going to not gender your character unless you're a robot and even then they probably will
and yeah there's a lot of mods that let you do that in ff14 but it doesn't affect what other people see and being seen as a very gendered player model makes me uncomfortable