just got an ask from an anonymous user that i find is a smidge too touchy/personal to post verbatim here, but just know: whoever it was who sent that, thank you. my view on advocating for the things i care about while dealing with obstacles is informed by my own experience trying to advocate for myself while struggling and failing to overcome obstacle after obstacle in my own life.
i could have let it eat me alive and lose my mind, and i did! for a period of time i genuinely lost my sanity and went apeshit. it wasn't fun. i don't want to go back there again. i wasted time that could have been put to something more effective to get me out of my situation. like, by losing my cool and going nuts about something, i ended up wasting more time than i would have just spinning my wheels against obstacles in the first place.
it's why i have the coping mechanisms i have now, and why i said what i said. getting angry about shit might feel good and righteous in the moment, but it genuinely doesn't do as much as people think it does. it's good to get angry, but use that anger as motivation to change things. don't use it like a battering ram, use it like a thruster that keeps you pushing forward for what you believe in.



