i'm so done with the sex/gender model of transness implying that all trans people were basically meant to be cis, if it wasn't for "being born in the wrong body". no shame to any trans people who feel this is their personal experience with transness, it just shouldn't be the default every trans person is assumed to operate under, and thats the fault of cis people imho.
i realized earlier this year if i was born another sex, i'd still choose hormones. i'd still be GNC. i still would be something that can't quite neatly fit into male or female. i think i'm just meant to be trans. and it makes me think a lot about how the pursuit of cisness is the end goal we are sold as trans people. because cisness is seen as wholeness, and correctness. cis people want us to correlate gender to trait in specific ways set out for us. and this is damaging and dysphoria fueling for trans people, or even damaging for trans people who don't experience dysphoria, because the pressure is always on "passing" and achieving a body that is as close to a mythical stereotype of Cisness as possible, regardless of your personal needs/wants. you are not allowed to just Be, and not allowed to pick and choose what serves you personally.
the relationship of sex and gender is much more complicated than we give credit to, i think this can especially be seen in people who feel their assigned gender correlates but their body/sexual traits don't, such as GNC cis people who pursue hormone treatment or even surgery. none of this has to be at odds and picking and choosing outside of the diagram of sex:gender should be a basic freedom.
