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As someone who is trying to learn to dom more this is honestly really helpful. The mindset of just being forward with your desires and gauging their response and going from, finding where the overlap is. Coming from a sub mindset it can be hard to think about the mindset of the other side of things. Especially when you are in subspace and not thinking about too much at all 😅.
Yes, exactly. And you can start small with communicating desires, and build from there. “Hey, I really like your vibe, can I flirt with you?” It depends upon the environment and situation too. I’ve had wild conversations, intimate moments, and scenes with people from and in all kinds of places, and yet also have had people get upset when I asked for a number or said that I liked their style. In those instances, I apologize for misunderstanding, and walk away.
It’s about reading a situation, whether you can put yourself out there, and how, and even now, I still sometimes misread. The biggest thing is being absolutely ok with putting yourself out there, and accepting a “no” in all of its forms. And people will say that, of course, like we all know that, and yet it’s another to embody that.
Absolutely, if someone is in subspace, you really need to like…feel that flow, you know? Watching every reaction, each sweet noise they make, and if things turn, maybe it’s time to check in.
Also, you have to watch out for “frenzy”, even as a Dom/me. It can be easy to get lost too far into an impact scene or something, so you have to make sure you’re not trying something new or wasn’t negotiated at that time. Yes, sometimes people want that improvisation, and that comes with some danger to it, so…just be aware of that too.