I'm Jeron (rhymes with Erin). A trans girl, apparently. I dabble in basically everything. World Record Holder. Girl-King of cats. Fledgling Goddess of Hunger


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NireBryce
@NireBryce

tldr, coming in guns blazing because of meaning you ascribe to a post that isn't actually there, isn't a way to win the hearts and minds of people on your side. if you always assume malace you'll just have people JFL¹ instead of guess if they'll be randomly stabbed because of people reading into things. people who ascribe to your end of ~*~ideology~*~ probably aren't opposed to you, until they become opposed to you. break the cycle instead of subjecting people to it.

I'm tired of having people on my side shoot me in their foot.

[1]: Just Fucking Leave


rotsharp
@rotsharp

sometimes things are best left unspoken between strangers, and you do not have to have an opinion on every opinion that crosses your view; even and especially perhaps if you have a strong initial reaction to it

at the end of the day you will change the behavior of people with one of two things: force or compassion. compassion will only work on those who are receptive and have a connection with you, and force makes an enemy out of whoever you use it on.

in this world, consider carefully, please, that the stranger you harm may have been a friend with a little different kind of work.

have your standards and enforce them within yourself and refine them among those you are connected to, but the act of internet warfare is almost entirely and wholly cop-brain shit if your plan is to make strangers into examples for strangers on how not to act, with demands of proper comportment that will accomplish nothing but misery for everyone involved.

i know this is dangerously close to discourse and i ask for conversation instead of battle, kind strangers. reserve judgment for your enemies and ask yourself if you need more of those in this world before you act, on cohost or anywhere


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in reply to @NireBryce's post:

agreed with everything but kind, i def wasn't to the proverbial final straw. but I'm so tired of what's now the third instance of this cycle I've seen in the decade I've been paying attention.

I'm glad I'm not alone here but oof

in reply to @rotsharp's post:

Ah, I see. I agree completely! I attributed a lot of that in the context of twitter to the space limit and the ability for posts within a certain cohort to rapidly escape that cohort to people whose behavior to the OP has no consequences. I think I was surprised by your post because I haven't seen this behavior on Cohost at all; but everyone's feeds and cohorts are different.

its weird how you get kind of a vague impression of other communities on social media by being on the edges of groups sharing each other heavily, and i think this kind of human landscape should be thought of and valued as a kind of relationship so that we dont fall into parasocial and mob dynamics. maybe a part of responsibility in design here is allowing users to opt out of shares x deep, configurable. they want a smaller space with the option to go wider but without being constantly flooded with the current Thing, and that is a legit use case for social media, imo.

there is less outright conflict among my cohort, in my direct view, than a promising number of people who seem eager and willing to decide together how to coexist. i have seen people misunderstand each other and work it out before harm was done with regularity and it makes me hopeful. some folks have been talking about backlash wrt a certain game and urging people not to engage in mob behaviors, and another discussion has sprung up around it kind of like prosocial online behavior in general. the vibe of cohost makes me feel less like people will debate me, so i was inspired to share my feelings, and it isnt really pointed at any one thing in particular besides, of course, twitter debate culture