lolololol finally!!!
Fixing the TX / RX pins did the trick. I was able to successfully flash the ESP32 with my firmware. For the "drive" light on the stick to light up, you have to keep pinging the shifter over and over telling it "you are in drive!", so I know the CAN bus is working.
I'm able to connect to it as a Bluetooth keyboard. The final image shows CAN bus traffic being logged over UART.
The hardware side of things seems to be working, so now I can iterate on the firmware for the ESP32. My Vim gear selector is getting close to being useable! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
