Anonymous asked:can you trigger tag ‘lesbians’ pleaseyeehawlw answered:no but i can hit you with my car
as it relates to the social norms on Mastodon
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Anonymous asked:can you trigger tag ‘lesbians’ pleaseyeehawlw answered:no but i can hit you with my car
as it relates to the social norms on Mastodon
i have never seen someone use CWs like that on mastodon unless it was for a joke.
who is asking for people to cw queerness on mastodon? maybe i'm in a bubble, but in my 2 years on mastodon i have never seen anything of the sort. most of the people i interact with there are queer themselves and certainly have no problem with seeing posts about how gay people are.
the closest i've gotten is people telling me to CW, for example, basically any mention of food
all food? i've seen people asking for cws on non-vegan food but not food in general.
the general vibe was that any mention of food is an eating disorder trigger so CW it. i did not agree to this
It was like that in a couple of Discords I was in, ended up getting banned in one over it.
yeah as others have mentioned it's not queerness but lots of other extremely innocuous things get CW requests on Mastodon and IMO the response in this Tumblr post is more like (an exaggerated version of) what should've been said in response to such things
I feel like that culture has a real chilling effect on the actual positives of social media
Yeah, there was a hot minute where people felt like it was acceptable to ask trans people to put CWs on pictures of their faces, which was not enough to scare me off the platform for good, but definitely cemented that Mastodon users are just as capable of incredibly psychotic behaviour as other places. Thankfully I haven't seen that happen in years, but christ, it was genuinely one of the most offensive perversions of the concept I've seen in my life.
unless I'm discussing the intimate details of something truly violent, I just... don't CW anything.
it's a free fediverse, and they're free to unfollow/mute/block me if they don't like me discussing normal everyday things.
I was literally asked to CW talking about issues I experienced being intersex
one thing i've learned across various platforms is
the question of how an online culture drifts toward handling triggering or just unwanted content is not just informed by the people involved
but it is often very directly informed by the design of the site itself
i remember on G+, if you "+1"ed a post, it would get shown to people who had you in their circles. and this was (for a time) the most common way for people to discover new folks on G+, outside their existing circles.
but also, hey, if you want to follow porn or cheesecake accounts, nobody's got a problem, but sometimes people don't want that shit showing up on their dash because you +1'd a sexy snake girl, right?
and this wouldn't have been as much of an issue as it was if
but both were true. so it got ugly.
I think interface is a huge part of what bothered me about how it works on Masto. Anything CW gets autohidden in a super annoying way, and that populates further down the rest of a thread and any replies, and so interacting with any post that has been deemed CW-worthy becomes painful ... so eventually I just didn't, and after a while, I left the site entirely because I couldn't read half my feed without being constantly annoyed like this.
When people talk about the chilling effect there, I think this is part of why. The site feels like it's actively trying to hid anything the community has deemed CW-worthy, and there's no one-click way to take part in a discussion that involves CWs, so there's just this constant negative pressure from the UI to just not bother or leave.
I think one thing people should keep in mind is that people Can genuinely have very strong/triggering reactions to innocuous stuff. I remember one post in particular where someone was explaining that they are triggered by green jello, and went on to explain the context etc, but also said they feel like they shouldn't have to explain their whole traumatic experience to ask, 'would you mind tagging pictures of green jello if you post them for some reason?'
But of course there is the other side, where people use 'content warnings' as a way to tell people 'this thing is disgusting and you should never post it', which is also a thing that happens. But in general like...content warnings are just warnings about content...not a sign that the thing you're posting is 'bad'. I think in the original post the wild thing about the request to tag 'lesbians' is that they're asking a (from what i can tell from the url) WLW blog to tag lesbians....in which case like...maybe you should just not follow that blog? If you're triggered by what is probably a thing they post a lot of?
It's a complicated topic so it worries me to see people flattening it from either side. I think it's important to remember Both that it's not your Job to tag things if you don't want to, and it's perfectly okay to say 'no I don't want to do that, you might be better off blocking or just not following me,' but also to remember that many people do get triggered by strange and innocuous things that probably won't make sense to you.
Just to be clear, I (used to) post a lot of selfies before the internet started feeling more unsafe again, should I have been expected by a complete stranger who had never interacted with me otherwise to trigger tag them with three to five distinct warnings?
I don't know about expected to, I just think if someone asks then like. It's fine for them to ask, but it's also fine for you to say no. In general it's also fine to say you don't want to be around people like that...as I said, it's complicated.
If you don't want to tag your photos I think that's perfectly okay. I also think some people definitely have triggers that might be bothered by your photos. That's not your responsibility, it's the internet, there's things on it. But someone asking you to tag isn't necessarily in the wrong just for asking you to tag.
Thinking about the time I was having a locked exchange about common trans issues, with another trans person, (which means you had to be following us to see it) and randos kept demanding CWs. Don't follow us if you don't want to see us being ~icky~.
Yep. Same with food, all faces, most bodies, any talk of hrt or the existence of surgery (not details), the existence of horny thoughts (again, without details)......
I'll absolutely tag things for friends, or let them know that they should probably not follow me on a platform. But I don't think i would ever ask this of a stranger.
i don't know what people want. even i get uncomfortable writing my posts that i don't want to make other people feel the same. also sometimes i get nauseous when i see food.