You know how sometimes you get to know someone and you can just feel the connection? You feel like your cheeks burn, you've been smiling so much at everything they say. You think about them at random times and have to suppress a little giggle. You go out of your way just to hear their voice again. When you're chatting with a group of people and your person pays special attention to the things you're saying, plucking them out of the noise to let you feel seen. Sometimes you can complete their thoughts before they do, and sometimes they say exactly what you're thinking right as you're about to. You feel the kind of cosmic connection that for the lucky happens only once or twice a lifetime, and for some, never.
So, no, I don't think 50,000 bits is "an excessive amount" to send, or that I'm being "unreasonable and totally irresponsible", Greg