one social custom that i’m never really comfortable with/never want to join in on that people do all the time (and i’m not even sure it’s a neurodivergent/neurotypical divide but might just be my particular flavor of autism) is just being really judgmental of other people especially people you don’t know very well at all or even hypothetical people, like idk maybe it’s a way people process their hurt or feel good in their own life choices by casting others as wrong but it never feels fun or productive to me
like to be clear, this is different than a specific judgement of “this person caused harm and let’s judge them for the action that caused harm” and i’m not saying i’m above casting judgment on others 100% of the time, but it just feels like sometimes people do this as a form of social bonding and socialization “these people are so weird and wrong for these life choices” to create right ways of behaving (in group) and wrong ways of behaving (out group) but the choices aren’t like causing pain and suffering to other people necessarily. this stuff makes my autism brain feel stressed because i feel like people are sharing social rules i ought not break to stay in their good graces, but avoiding people’s judgement is a futile task i suppose
idk am i making sense? i feel like when others try to engage me in this kinda stuff i just like nod along and don’t know what to do
