Komma

I'm a sex-favorable ace who has dealt with a lot of gender-based harassment on the Internet. The line about worrying about connecting over sex-related topics never really turning into a friendship really resonates for me.

For me personally, I've been leaning more into the idea that my weird alien self that has to explicitly ask norms before any encounter is not actually the weird one. I pretend that I'm normal and everyone else is weird for making assumptions that their behavior necessarily implies things. It was lonely at first but I eventually found people who would not only meet me where I wanted to be met, but were excited and felt safe that I so clearly knew what I wanted. My instincts didn't have to make sense to anyone else but me; I found people who would respect them regardless