put the classic constraint "mutuals only" on their private side blogs and i am not sure how much you have used cohost so far — whether you are a friend of eggbug, as they say — but i have absolutely no idea who my mutuals are so i will be unable to behold your butt pics at this time sorry
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in reply to @lexyeevee's post:
I mean, I'm a fairly small-ish account, and the only way I can really check 'mutuals' is to go down your follower list, and see who you've also followed. No easy way to cross reference that to another page without having a side-by-side tab open.
Even as a small account, its still like...3 or 4 'load mores' to check the whole list.
Fair enough, yeah.
Feels like something you could partially solve with a userscript, but it'd be much better solved on the server, I'd expect.
I feel like just emulating birdsite ideas is a bad way to go, especially if the only reason to do it is that its what people are used to. Likely differentiating 'followers' and 'friends' would be a better option overall, with friends requiring opt-in on the receiving side.
So many old habits that just won't transfer. Like, as of right now, you can't do the 'answer questions per like' sort of posts the birdsite had, unless you are super-on-the-ball on noticing likes (so that's a no for any medium+ sized account).
That and there's no reliable way to check what has been re-shared from a main post, and you can't post images in comments, so you can't have people 'respond with images' and have people other than the OP see them if they only see the original post.
You can if you're motivated enough, but it is a bit of extra work
(A short explanation for anyone else: You can upload an image to a post, save the post as a draft, delete the draft after copying the image url, then use  markdown image syntax.
It's less effort than CSS-crimes, but still no low-friction)
Funnily enough, someone has gotten polls working on cohost, via some CSS and server-side code of their own, I believe (not unlike a tracking pixel, I think)
Ha! I made choll. I almost explored using CSS background images to do the voting but I wasn't sure if browsers would fetch those early or not. Cool to see someone else making polls too!
Yeah, it’s harder to phrase that d of thing here in a way that is meaningful. I’ve fallen back on a more ‘shoot your shot’ phrasing because the alternative is someone messaging everyone and otherwise saying ‘keep out’
hm, i guess if you’re not sure if they follow you, then you could just send a follow request anyway, and leave it on them to more easily know/check if they follow you (with the assumption that you’d be following them if you’re the one making the request anyway)… though i guess it looks like you’re trying to pry if you send a follow request but it turns out they don’t follow you. maybe in lieu of of an easy way to check if someone’s following you, we can all just collectively agree to not judge any follow requests we get on privates?? easier said than done though, can’t really just tell your brain not to do that. beh! i wonder if [Follows you] indicators on pages are something cohost consciously rejects or if it’s just not an implemented feature. unfortunately it’s hard to tell at this stage.
i might have said this a thousand times but i love not knowing anything. being unaware of my surroundings never made me happier
i just come here to comment. like. chost. comment some more. oh cool another css crime i have to like that
Personally I'm not sure how much I like "following each other" as a yardstick for familiarity anyway. Maybe just "if I know you/we've talked?" (Which I've seen on bird site for people's locked accounts anyway.)