Imagine defining two bodies' attraction by only the distance between them along some straight line in one particular dimension. Imagine defining the distance between the Sun and the Earth that way.
Are you as a couple more of a perigee or an apogee? It makes no sense. Bodies orbit each other in attraction. This motion is higher dimensional than we tend to describe it when applying it to humans.
There are relationships where your orbit is parabolic, where you slingshot away, where you spiral destructively, or where you only see the other once every decade before they're gone again for a while. There are rare ones that enter into a long and fixed orbit for the rest of your days.
The spatial metaphors hold for emotional distance, so why wouldn't the same sorts of metaphors hold for gender? Your gender and anyone else's in your orbit affect each other and change each other over time.
Advanced relationship and gender dynamics are Lagrange points