Increasingly frustrating to me that trans and nonbinary people are obviously uniquely suited for commentating on gender roles and sexism for living and interacting with both sides of the cultural gender binary, but in several progressive circles they're essentially softlocked out of talking about their experiences at all without facing backlash.
There's the usual TERF-esque socialization spiel where trans people are not allowed to talk about living as their own gender, because they clearly can't have anything meaningful to say if they didn't openly live as that gender from cradle-to-grave. But there's also the opposing trend where nominally trans-accepting people will just act like trans people's experiences involving their AGAB are irrelevant, all under the guise of being gender affirming. So you have one argument saying that trans people aren't their self-identified gender, and you have another argument that requires you to pretend that trans people aren't trans. And these arguments often come from the same individuals, their usage depending on whichever prevents thinking about gender and sexism in less than purely black-and-white terms, whichever prevents trans people from talking.
For an example, both trans men and trans women are often barred from discussing their experience with internalized misogyny, because "that's just normal misogyny," depending on which oversimplified view of gender people feel like holding in that instant. Both of these perspectives are uniquely sinister in their essentialism, but both ultimately argue that you need 'the right parts,' be it genitals or brain structure or childhood or some vague metaphysical entity that your identity comes from, to understand the lives of others, no matter how long you have walked in their shoes. That to even attempt to understand, to relate, to find comradery with people who are not virtually identical to you, is tantamount to bigotry.