honestly, I think it's important to at least touch on my own kinkiness and sexuality with all the people who care about me. I want them to have an understanding of the kinds of ways being kinky impacts my life, and how it tends to get weaponized against people like me, so that they have at least some idea of what to expect if anything like that comes to light— and so that I can be sure they'll have my back even if they're eventually grossed out at what they learn about me.