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TheBlackNerd
@TheBlackNerd

As someone who has been online for a long time, one thing I've noticed is that there are people who have legitimate mental illness/neurodivergence/etc and act like they are the only ones who have problems

That some of us aren't actively working towards controlling our worst impulses dictated by mental illness.

THEY are in pain, YOU are not. You don't understand. You don't get it.


TheBlackNerd
@TheBlackNerd

If I'm being completely honest, I see this MOST out of white people and ESPECIALLY white women


TheBlackNerd
@TheBlackNerd

What is the point of therapy if you don't want to get better? What's the point in "bettering" yourself if you're not going to treat people any different besides stroking your own ego and protecting your own shitty behavior?

Yeah, you're not going to want to forgive people who have hurt you but what's the point in living life believing people can't change? What is the point of YOU trying to get better if you don't believe others can do the same?

Kindness to others is kindness to yourself and you would hate to live a life where you feel as though people don't trust you or you can't trust them because then WHAT IS THE POINT OF SOCIETY

WHY DO ANY OF THIS IF WE'RE ONLY LIVING FOR OURSELVES


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Out here, beyond your therapist’s office door, there’s the rest of us, and we have rights and needs too.

Damn that's a hell of a final sentence. Thank you for sharing this piece it's put into words something I've felt vaguely weird about for a while.

Like I knew I was annoyed at "therapy speak" but yeah, it's this complete erasure of other people as anything but background props, obstacles and settings for your "journey" that truly makes me hate this sort of thing. Where are you going that you must do it alone? Who are you becoming that must shut everyone out? Once you achieve the perfect healing and self-actualization that require you to discard everyone else... then what? Will you be happy then?

And yeah this is the domain of mostly white women "mental health influencers" and their audience 🙃

White cisheteropatriatchy designates white women as the innocent class of people that must be protected lest they become victims of The Other, and a lot of white women internalize this self image as being always blameless and constantly under threat.

But yeah the worst bully I know (yes, also a white woman) kept using "I am establishing boundaries and you need to respect them" to mean "do more free work for me or Else"