And in the process learned that I have been A Topic of Conversation among one of my old college friend groups. I fell out of contact with them, but...for context, my group of friends in college was mostly people who could be called "conventional nerds." Cis, straight, monogamous, goes to church Christmas and Easter but don't really consider themselves Christian, going to get traditional degrees and work traditional fields and have 2.5 kids and a picket fence. While life threw some curveballs to that group and here and there, for the most part that's how that group has panned out.
Then there's me. The poly trans lesbian cancer survivor who is a full time author and lives with her three cats, writes books about dinosaurs fighting dragons as well as kinky tentacle sex, has posted multiple videos to TikTok and photos to Facebook and Snapchat stories about travelling across the country and kissing (and more) various people from coast to coast, has mentioned more than once having multiple partners, has talks openly about being a hypnodomme, etc etc.
Apparently those friends have come to kind of chat about me with the sort of fascinated wonder in the sense of "it's always the quiet ones" and otherwise regard me as some kind of slutty cryptid.
The friend I was in contact with kept apologizing for this but honestly? I had to explain to him that while he wouldn't understand, this is absolutely Gender for me.
Then I gave him a few fresh juicy tidbits about my life, refused to answer more questions, and promised to get in touch next Halloween. He was not sure if I was serious or joking about that.
Neither am I.
