Do you ever worry that if you give someone a reason for something that is more than a simple sentence or in anyway involves putting two and two together, it will be dismissed as an excuse?
All the time. And it's constantly at war with my compulsion from ADHD/whatever other neurodivergence I have to do exactly that.
There was a post I saw on tumblr where people were coming to the conclusion that it's not that the person asking "why" wants a reason -- an explanation -- for why you chose to do a thing a certain way...
...but what they are actually demanding is a grovelling apology for not doing it the way they would have done it/the way they expected you to do it (but didn't tell you to).
And y'know, in some cases I think they have a point there.
Try to give a reason, get it hand-waved as an excuse; don't give a reason, get treated poorly anyway...
