i really, truly, don't want to hear "i refuse to vote dem because they aren't doing anything for trans people" ever again, especially from people who don't know they were quietly advancing trans rights at least as far back as the early 2000s, possibly longer (i was too young and not paying attention before then). and doing it quietly so that the GOP didn't latch on with culture war crap while changes were first starting and even more vulnerable to attack.
the good stuff rarely gets headlines, both because only negative stories get clicks, and because staying low-key until absolutely necessary throws off the GOP. pay attention. be active. and also vote.
the dems will always trail the movement, but that's how politics works. You make it politically embarrassing for the closest party with a critical mass to not do the thing, and then they can justify it to their own people.
Which, as amy says, has been working, if slow and covert.
Elections won't end capitalism but when it comes to civil rights voting really is a matter of "who would you rather be shouting at" and the professed progressives will always be easier to push even if we still have to push and push