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you can say "chimoora" instead of "cow of tailed snake" if you want. its a good pun.β
i ramble about aerospace sometimes
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I have a terminal case of bovine pungiform encephalopathy, the bovine puns are cowmpulsory
they/them/moo where "moo" stands in for "you" or where it's funny, like "how are moo today, Lupi?" or "dancing with mooself"
I used exactly that phrase at a few points in drafting this post, TBH.
Like, I can see how some might feel like it's similar in form to masking, but ending up engaging in callous actions because you refuse to take others at their word when they describe how their minds work isβ¦ β¦actually outright harmful, unlike most other things one might need to perform for social reasons.
But absolutely. And even if one can never "make it", at least faking it for the rest of their life will be extremely valuable, especially compared to the usually mild effort it takes to do it once they've started to get a clearer explicit, conscious model of how various people might be affected by various things.
like! folks are already masking, if they can't understand why others need them to act in a certain way to avoid hurting them, they might as well just work it into what they're doing. avoiding hurting others is a good enough reason to do it on its own
Exactly! This is why I'm kinda thankful that people were so willing to yell at and tear into me as a teenager online. It forced me to quickly get better at at least having a factual understanding of what's going on in other people's minds, and that helped me get a lot better at not doing things that, like, pissed people off for good reason.
And even from the most self-centred point of view β and I'm not trying to accuse anyone of thinking this way by proxy or anything β there's justβ¦ β¦way more to be gained from not harming people gratuitously. Let alone the value to everyone else inherent in not causing unnecessary harm.
Just, yeah, like. "I don't get this person's pain" is a very adolescent excuse for reckless action. I understand that mindset, but it's wrong.
i can see why that last bit catches on too because in so many cases and with so many Types Of Guy out there, it's an astute observation that if you can't tell what someone's deal is it's rarely a good sign. taking that as a shortcut to not trying to find out and just ignoring them instead is a frequent time saver, and a poor choice when they are imploring you to do something differently / more considerate. i've been guilty of this myself