A thing I've experienced a lot, and hinted at in previous pieces of writing, is a dynamic where trans women will enforce transmisogyny on other trans women through ideas of development and immaturity. Like the constant refrain of "she only just came out of the closet and only has the mental capacity of a teenage girl" whenever a trans woman does something harmlessly cringey or embarrassing, where the hidden implication is that once you're a few more years into transition you have an obligation to get normaler and more respectable or you're "making the community look bad". This is why I've decided to say fuck that and get weirder as I get older. I'm going to wear more outrageous outfits. I'm going to speak more autistically. I'm going to love who I love and what I love without apology. Most of all I am going to prioritize my own happiness over any concerns about acceptability to cis people or other trans people.
Waiting for the inevitable flood of "I don't think that's what they actually mean" to which my preemptive response is go fuck yourself

