lupi

cow of tailed snake (gay)

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you can say "chimoora" instead of "cow of tailed snake" if you want. its a good pun.​


i ramble about aerospace sometimes
I take rocket photos and you can see them @aWildLupi


I have a terminal case of bovine pungiform encephalopathy, the bovine puns are cowmpulsory


they/them/moo where "moo" stands in for "you" or where it's funny, like "how are moo today, Lupi?" or "dancing with mooself"



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bovigender pride flag, by @arina-artemis (click for more info)



DiscoDeerDiary
@DiscoDeerDiary

A thing I've experienced a lot, and hinted at in previous pieces of writing, is a dynamic where trans women will enforce transmisogyny on other trans women through ideas of development and immaturity. Like the constant refrain of "she only just came out of the closet and only has the mental capacity of a teenage girl" whenever a trans woman does something harmlessly cringey or embarrassing, where the hidden implication is that once you're a few more years into transition you have an obligation to get normaler and more respectable or you're "making the community look bad". This is why I've decided to say fuck that and get weirder as I get older. I'm going to wear more outrageous outfits. I'm going to speak more autistically. I'm going to love who I love and what I love without apology. Most of all I am going to prioritize my own happiness over any concerns about acceptability to cis people or other trans people.


DiscoDeerDiary
@DiscoDeerDiary

Waiting for the inevitable flood of "I don't think that's what they actually mean" to which my preemptive response is go fuck yourself


ValerieElysee
@ValerieElysee
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in reply to @DiscoDeerDiary's post:

same SAME SAME

people will be like "well when you come out as trans you need a few years where you can be an embarrassing teenager" but i'm over here almost ten years into being trans and still dressing very eccentrically, sometimes more eccentrically than i used to dress, still being weird and autistic and carrying stuffed animals around with me in public, still being a cringey pony/furry online

i hate the implication that i'm supposed to get "normal" after the first few years of transition

As soon as you phrased it that way I realized how much it has in common with the patriarchal idea that homosexual behavior is only okay if you limit it to experimenting with your friends as a child and abandon it when it's time to grow up and start a family

I know I made that "It's called fashion" haha teehee post before, but I was kinda serious. When I'm outside, trans girls are the only ones I see wearing nice clothes, while everyone else dresses to be comfortable (which is fine) or "professional" (which makes me want to thraow up). And I'm supposed to look at these girls, who are wearing unique and fancy outfits that they put a lot of thought into, and think "oh how immature 🙄". Absolutely not! The only thing I'm thinking is how much I want to be able to afford nice clothes so I can dress like them too

Yeah and like the flipside of that is that I also like to wear outfits that I don't put a lot of thought into but are still unconventional. Pairing patterns and colors that "clash" or "don't match" but I'm wearing them because these particular items of clothing (usually pulled out of the dumpster) make me feel happy.

in reply to @DiscoDeerDiary's post:

Honestly I've heard this trope said by trans people about themselves a lot, and to me it smacks of "I'm allowed to be messy all over my relationships because second puberty" and that. that is not how it works. Second puberty is about re-experimenting with a new sense of self in a body that now accommodates you better, not about being rude to people because "you have hormones".

I've really never heard it said about someone else, it's always the messiest person in a group saying it about themselves. So maybe it's regional and got that stigma from that? No clue.

I've definitely mentioned "second puberty" about people before but it was always a good thing in those contexts? Like so-and-so has gotten to second puberty, and it's really cool how their fashion changed. In the queer group I know it's more about revisiting the freedom of expression most people get in their teens (and some of the fun sex feelings of the same growth period) than about human maturity second puberty.

I never thought about this being regional before tho. I've seen your version online before and so I'm definitely aware it exists but I thought it was more about those particular folks being assholes than about it being used that way in general. huh. Might avoid the second puberty phrase in future if that's how people are interpreting it