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bicoastal in the canadian sense where one coast is the pacific and the other is the st laurent river
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i know this has been said before, but good god can we stop trying to earnestly claim that fashion choices are made in a vaccuum? that it is possible to make a decision about what sheet or tube or scrap of fabric to cover our bodies with without considering the societal conditions of the world that has told us to cover those bodies? you can't dress punk "for yourself," because that choice consciously aligns you with a subculture that other people will immediately associate you with. you can't dress in business attire "for yourself," because wearing overly nice clothes in a context where it's not expected will necessarily change the way you are interacted with in that space. you can't dress slutty "for yourself," because you—as a human being who has interacted with other human beings—know that it will have an impact on the kind of attention you attract.

i honest to god cannot believe that any decision is made without considering other people. no one is an island, and that is okay! you're allowed to want to be read as politically aligned to some movement, you're allowed to want to be treated more seriously, you're allowed to want people to want to fuck you. you just can't pretend that those desires are not playing a part in your choice of clothing.


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