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Maddy the Android: Out of Character

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Just a page for stuff I wanted to share, which would be super out-of-character for Maddy to share as a character.

I am an autistic game developer and music producer, who is living the genderfluid experience. I really love airplanes, hard sci-fi, orbital mechanics, and purple is my happiest color!

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amydentata
@amydentata

there's an unspoken belief in some circles that, if you carefully craft terminology and use it in just the right way, it will be immune to misuse or dishonesty. problem is, there is literally nothing you can do to stop people from misusing words or misunderstanding them. there is nothing you can do to categorically stop people from twisting words against you, either. the search for bulletproof terminology is, at root, an exercise in magical thinking. we arrive at greater understanding via the conversation itself, not through a meta game that rests on top of the conversation


Webster
@Webster

something i've learned the hard way is that there will be people who have decided to misunderstand you in advance. they see this as an act of self preservation. there are stakes in changing your ideology. even minor changes could represent losses in every rung of maslow's hierarchy of needs. identity, community, resource, safety. they will engage with your ideology in whatever way is most likely to preserve their ontological security. misunderstanding you might be the one rule they are constitutionally obligated not to break.


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in reply to @amydentata's post:

ugh, i was just dealing with this a few weeks ago

and what really sucks is that even when you mentally acknowledge that it's not your fault that they made something up to get mad at and attributed it to you, it still hurts when they do it, and it hurts even more when the people around you either believe them or treat the whole thing as a frivolous childish argument