I think that a Clan comes first because you can outgrow who you used to be or might have been, but your chosen family will always grow with you.

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I think that a Clan comes first because you can outgrow who you used to be or might have been, but your chosen family will always grow with you.
wow this is an actually good answer to a microfic askchost
i know the topic is kind of a systemesque rehash of "blood vs chosen family" but i like how it's presented