putting "parasocial" up on the shelf with "gaslighting" and "toxic" until you people stop using it as a catchall for the entire spectrum of behavior from dangerous obsession with a multimillionaire celebrity who doesn't know you exist, to being chummy with a person who has more followers than you on social media
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in reply to @pervocracy's post:
someone on bluesky found a list of words like this that was over 100 words long and I agree with all of them
The fundamental problem of all these terms in public discourse is that the people who most need to understand and internalize the problems they describe - the unreflective ones who send death threats - are not going to acknowledge that their behavior is a problem until someone rubs their nose in it.
And at the other end, people who are anxious or shy will freak out that what they're doing by forming a mild connection with a stranger over a public post is capital-B Bad and self-isolate harder.
Someone literally fucking accused me of being social with a Youtuber I'm friends with.
Who, for context, is my neighbor. And friend. Like he lives next door I could just walk into his house and call him a nerd RIGHT NOW.
THEY DID IT WHEN HE WAS IN MY STREAM CHAT WITH ME.
I think "social" is a typo there but it's a fitting one, because yes, that's what that is. It is not parasocial, it's just... regular social.
Yeah social was a typo. Someone accused me of being Parasocial with my neighbor because he has more Youtube Subscribers than me LOL