in my eyes: the act of a gender-nonconforming person purposefully dressing a gendered way of the expectation they defy- say, a gender non-conforming masculine woman purposefully wearing lingerie and garments that are considered feminine- is still utterly gender non-conforming, and works against harmfully gendered ideals regarding lingerie
the only thing that's going to emasculate me is if i stop identifying this way. i wear a bra because i need to conceal my fucking wrecking balls, not out of some freudian urge to be feminine. it's twice as non-conforming whether you like it or not, in fact