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Pupperpotamus
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Recently I've been giving friends of mine a "take the compliment" trigger, which is laser focussed on self-conscious and insecure friends who do the whole "No U" deflection when given a compliment.

Effectively, the suggestion when the subject is under is that; When somebody you respect gives you a comliment, it is not a statement of fact, but instead an opinion of endearment given by someone who isn't you, and that whilst you can disagree with someone's assesment, you recognise that they think positively of your appearance, personality or demeanor. When I, and only I say the phrase "Take the compliment" you will feel a brief sensation of being appreciated and valued, knowing that someone you trust thinks positively of you, and whilst you may not understand how they reached that conclusion, you know that they mean it genuinely. You will then say "Thank you" to the person who gave the compliment.

I quite like how i've done this one. Learning to stop saying "No U" was something which did huge things for my self-perception. I feel like the conditions of the complimenter needing to be trusted, and the filter that only I can use the trigger makes it all a bit more secure the subject to do without hesitation, too

I've given it to a few people, and so far nothing but positive things have been said about it, both from other 'tists who have seen the trigger in use, and from the subjects themselves, who I've ften seem just get better at taking compliments in general, without me needing to use the trigger. 💚


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in reply to @Pupperpotamus's post:

You've got every right to be! And yeah, I think the last time we were hanging it was in an Arht Skype, which is... yeesh. That's a minute.

Anyway, I'm definitely putting something similar to work on one of my partners; I have one who drops easy like me, but the other has a tough time staying engaged and being responsible for her own ~stuff~ is likely to grab her much more. She's mostly the 'tist-est of all of us, but still, we'd like to be able to knock her down here and there!