"men are not oppressed by patriarchy" is not a "radfem" statement to make. it is not TERF-lite or bioessentialist or whatever to say "men are not oppressed by patriarchy".
men can be oppressed, for example the way black men are depicted as hypermasculine hulking beasts. this is, notably, because they are black. this is not patriarchy hurting men too, this is racism. and you can tell this is true because the same is applied to black women.
acting like racist or transphobic oppression are not driven by racism or transphobia, but instead by some universal "androphobia" oppressing men is fucking ridiculous, and undermining of other oppressions to act like they're actually uniquely driven by How Oppressed Men Are.