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idadeerz
@idadeerz

there's something in it that in my mind reminds me of like, infantilizing people just to exploit them. there's no need to call this person "barely legal", even if it wasn't a creepy term, but it just adds to the idea that this person is vulnerable to someone like weirdwyrd. not only does that create the idea that weirdwyrd is somehow unsafe, it also very much creates the idea that the opposite of that is that shirin is safe, somehow.

personally i'd be very uncomfortable if someone used any stories of abuse i'd tell them and then they just twist it into "ida is such a poor vulnerable defenseless little meow meow 🥺🥺🥺" like buddy no what the fuck i never said that you're just making that up for your own gain and to further your control over me??

sidenote: shirin's also a massive (ace) exclusionist from what i've previously been told by a peer. it wasn't worth putting it in this post anywhere but it's a thing so do with that what you want. the person who once showed me the evidence about it cut me off so i couldn't look up the evidence if i tried anyways.

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the-doomed-posts-of-muteKi
@the-doomed-posts-of-muteKi

I definitely agree on your first point -- infantilization is never a good look, especially given what sort of people are most eager to exploit that viewpoint to police queer people (i.e., terfs). A pretty inherently patronizing and conservative viewpoint.

And your last point, while maybe not directly relevant to the topic at hand, certainly paints a clear picture of someone around mostly to try to divide communities for reasons tied more to aesthetics than ethics.

Exclusionism and paternalism, the peanut butter and chocolate of people trying to erode queer rights.

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celestia-cat-alien
@celestia-cat-alien

Seriously? For a person's behavior?! A NeuroDivergent person myself, this is fucked up. I've had instances of people not liking my behavior, but at least they TOLD me. Man, people these days.

((by the way, thanks for writing about these kinds of things! it feels good to know that there are assholes getting exposed in one way or another))

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sarahzedig
@sarahzedig

i've seen this tactic used against so many people, especially trans women. it's really, really nefarious how often accusations of pedophilia get deployed as a social justice silver bullet, where just showing even a little bit of skepticism towards a claim is considered an equal stain on your own reputation. i often find myself thinking about how "believe the victim" has become an all-purpose smokescreen for bad faith actors to get away with murder. it's heartening to see someone put work into vetting such claims, this should be a much more common practice tbh

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nycki
@nycki

Someone tried this sort of BS on me (an autistic trans woman) once. I asked to see the evidence against me, the accuser said it was "too personal to share", so I went and told my other friends "hey, heads up, someone's spreading BS about me 'harrassing' them with no evidence" and thankfully my friends understood that.

But if I was a little less lucky? Damn, thatd be my whole life gone. Fuckers.

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onyxxx
@onyxxx

the accuser: says something you directly did was harassment and that they're going to spread this information about you to harm your reputation
also the accuser: "i can't share the evidence with you because it's too personal"
my brother in christ you are sharing the evidence with the accused.
actual psychopath logic. i'm glad you were able to escape those accusations.

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onyxxx
@onyxxx

i knew absolutely nothing about this situation or hyperpop before i read this, but it's comforting seeing others do actual research into these kinds of inflammatory accusations. the world needs more people like you and lyn2u. thank you for your dedication to the truth.

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Noxulous
@Noxulous

This reminds me of aa nasty breakup i went through last year around this time. Right after it occured the large group of suspiciously underaged friends started accusing me of sexually harassing them, I'd never even dm'd any of them on principle, i didnt know them, they were underaged, i didnt want to know them etc. But because their friend, my ex suddenly hated me, they felt they cound convince her i was a pedophile, and she, being vindictive, accepted that without evidence.

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meow-d
@meow-d

Basically the twitter problematic person cycle:

  • see rumours on someone being a terrible person
  • become wary of the person, but doesn't want to do research to confirm the rumour
  • always brings up the rumour whenever the person is mentioned, just in case
  • "there's nothing wrong with exaggerating, they're a terrible person anyways. What's the difference between..."
    • "oversharing" <-> "being creepy" <-> "grooming" <-> "raping"
  • more people sees the rumour, and the cycle starts again, with the rumour getting more and more exaggerated...

I'm guilty of this as well. That's why I quit twitter. We've become so paranoid that we're harming innocent people "just in case".

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