I think this post is pretty correct in that diagnosis.
That is why fandom spaces become so
harsh
in maintaining their acceptable orthodoxy.
Why it must be liking the right thing the right way.
Why many treat identities also as fandom camps.
Everything must be correct and acceptable. Social backlash is harsh.
Kids have no space in which to be free. Online or off. It is constant, consistent vigilance, and taught to be self-vigilant. Not fitting in in whatever environment they are in is punished harshly.
So when they see weird adults being
weird
they freak the fuck out. That cannot be allowed.
They would not be allowed to do that in their spaces, in the environments they are in.
So they are made uncomfortable by that.
So they must make the spaces they are joining feel safe
They must make it clean and fit their comfortable acceptability.
The vibes and aesthetics must be correct
TLDR they should really learn to kill that cop in their heads and free themselves to be more
themselves
