Occasional reminder that using they/them pronouns for a specific person who clearly indicates a different set of pronouns is still misgendering. They are not "get out of jail free" pronouns. Defaulting to they/them for visibly trans people and not for people who look cis to you is also misgendering. Defaulting to they/them for everyone is fine I guess but asking everyone is better and establishing a culture where it's normal and unobtrusive to proactively indicate pronouns is better still.
