back in June I reached out to Dr. Rumer with some post-op concerns, and she responded with "you are no longer a patient of ours, see an OB/GYN". So in July I made an appointment w/ the only one that my insurance will let me use, which happens to be in the same organization that I work at.
That organization failed to get someone to cover for me so the first appointment fell through and got rescheduled for today.
Apparently todays appointment was cancelled without anyone telling me, and the front desk person could not figure out why. Bet you money that if I could legally open my chart I would find someone saying "hey this person is trans, so has a dick, so why the fuck are they on our schedule".
Four months. Four fucking months. During that time I was also openly discriminated against by this organizations staff, misgendered/demeaned by its doctors, and just routinely ignored. All the OB/GYN staff I have spoken to have been reticent to schedule me, because they have such few resources that I, as a simulacrum of a woman, do not deserve. As such I have had to lay out in detail one of the most painful things I have gone through. Today I had to do it in a full waiting room.
and the fucking thing is! I know this org! I know for a fact that whatever OB/GYN I see is not going to know how to help me, not going to want to learn, not going to understand why I need their help, and ultimately will walk out of the room without providing any care, sympathy or advice.
I am a white, young professional who is well spoken, polite, well dressed, and resourced. And I fucking work here! And despite aaaalllll of that privilege I am still here trying not to cry knowing that I have to go even longer with these issues unaddressed.
