My exhaustion with messages is that I really can only respond to them when I carve out time to Sit Down and Think, lest I open the notification and loose it (and the person) forever, so that's exhausting and means they build up, but also it takes me days to respond and then my chad friends just effortlessly respond immediately so I then get so so so so overwhelmed with everyone responding at once
Solution I just found: stay up really late after everyone's bedtime, turn on do not disturb so I don't notice their responses right away, and then go through and respond to everyone
.... I'm totally not autistic
