i really like 90s and earlier queer zines and stuff where you see a large amount of queer people self identify in messy or "controversial" ways and i really want that punk spirit back. nowadays i see too much infighting about who gets to say and be what and a lot of emphasis on clean tidy boxes for our labels. queerness needs to be about creating the self in whatever manner speaks to you as an individual and not what makes sense to other people. i feel like this spirit has been watered down because its easier to gain cishet allyship through streamlining and boxing ourselves, and rainbow capitalism also finds it easier to sell to singular, clean labels and umbrellas. we're easier to stomach when we dissolve our experiences into "we're just like you!" for cishet audiences. playing the "good, normal queer" in exchange for our rights has intoxicated people to the point i can't count the amount of times i've seen "neopronouns/xenogenders make trans people look crazy, you're making the rest of the community look bad" or similar sentiments about any concept that isn't palatable enough to be immediately understood and approved by cishet people or even fellow LGBTQ people. you don't need to "make sense" or taste good, you need to be yourself and experience self-actualization. so yes you should be a girlfag or boydyke or stargender or an it/its or whatever your heart desires.

QUEER PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED TO BE FUCKED UP AND WEIRD

NOBODY CAN STOP YOU

IF THEY TRY YOU MAY OBLITERATE THEM

this is why neopronouns are important even if i have difficulty using them correctly for the people i care about.

identity labels are descriptive, not prescriptive

all language is compromise, not a mathematical formula

go forth and be messy