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@orchidrabbit

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r_m_@orchidrabbit9/3/2022, 7:51 PM

coming up with a new kind of Gender Theory where if you've ever considered what your gender is and how it informs your personal identity and presentation, then congrats you're deemed as having a capital "G" Gender. you can be trans and have a Gender, you can be cis and have a Gender. you can be non-binary and have a Gender.

being a gender or sexual minority predisposes you to the ability to have a Gender, but doesn't automatically grant you one. note how many white cis women bemoan the existence of trans men as failed lesbians or whatever. the key part of my Gender Theory is the "personal" part of it. it's about how you relate to yourself, not how you relate to our gender biased society at large. anyone can have a gender, but you need some introspection to have a Gender.

the most important outcome of having a Gender is me deciding whether i can respect your opinion about video games.

#half a shitpost half a real post #i keep talking about this concept of "having Gender" as a joke but actually its just fucking real

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((=o д o=))@slothy9/4/2022, 4:54 AM

What if I've considered my gender and decided that it doesn't really inform my identity? Maybe I'm coming from a wierd place of privilege as a cis girl of course, and I haven't read anything or even really spoken to anyone on the topic... But personally, I've always felt like I'm just a Me wearing a body. I don't feel like it's the wrong body, I like it fine, although I get really annoyed by the way I am treated because of it. I feel like my body prevents people from seeing the Me, which is more like an amorphous blob doing a silly dance. Anyway, is gender purely body or something else?

((=o д o=))@slothy9/4/2022, 4:55 AM

I think part of this is because I spend most of my time attached to my computer so a lot of the time I don't really even feel connected to my body at all in any way except the pains of an unhealthy lifestyle... haha

r_m_@orchidrabbit9/4/2022, 6:46 PM

i understand where you're coming from but the basis of a lot of transgender/transsexual theory is that of that your gender and presentation is not informed by what your body looks like in definition and appearance, hence why people identify as trans. and it's valid to say that your gender doesn't inform your identity, and not a challenge to you, but when you describe yourself to other people, do you say "woman" or "girl" or just "person"? that is a form of self identification too, an a subconscious one at that.

r_m_@orchidrabbit9/4/2022, 6:53 PM

a lot of a trans person's transition ends up being how to change how they feel about themselves and how the world sees them in order to match an internal comfort level, often using the word "dysphoria" as a means of describing when the internal doesnt match the external (in a very general sense and often only used/applied by binary trans people). but cis people are just as able to have dysphoria in being uncomfortable with the self, which requires a different kind of transition. because at the end of the day, self acceptance is the number one important part of a transition, that you feel most comfortable with your body and self and to reference my shitpost theory, is to have a Gender, because you've come to some apotheosis about what it means to be you and exist with visibility and "self" in this world, but in a way that is wholly important to you and secure, without the external need for validation by society at large. being trans or being a gender minority in this world is by itself transgressive that will cause friction with the lines drawn by our society, so it is most wholly important to find that security in this piece of self identification that no one can deny you or take away.

((=o д o=))@slothy9/5/2022, 2:26 AM

I agree with you, totally. And this is super eye-opening for me. For me I do always describe myself as "woman" or "girl" and don't have any friction there. So I guess it is part of my identity, but so ingrained that I don't even notice it or assign importance to it. But of course it is important! Got a lot to think about.

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