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Anonymous User asked:

I'm curious, do you have any thoughts on navigating the intersection of kink x drugs x negotiation and consent IRL? Shit's complicated! (and also hot as hell in the right context)

also, applying big sharp claws to baphy belly that is all

im only really one person with my own experiences so bear in mind despite advice i can try to give here im only one person limited to the few experiences ive had but i do want u to have a good and safe time if this is territory you're thinking abt

i think the answer to a ton of this kind of shit boils down to communication and preparedness and more communication There's Literally Never Too Much Communication


implementing "Red/Yellow/Green Light" systems beforehand is also a massively smart way to navigate this stuff. The last kinky thing i went to (while it didnt involve substance use i think it still applies bc consent is consent) implemented this (the understanding with this general system meaning "green" as touch freely, "yellow" being a check in/breather/hold up a sec and "red" being Hey Stop Actually) its simple, to the point and leaves zero question for what you're feeling at the moment

expectations should always be laid out, everyone should have some understanding of each other's needs. you literally cannot ask too many questions with regards to this stuff!! better to ask too many questions than too little

Also framing my next points with regards to group use since thats what ive had the most experience with wrt kink/horny/whatever vibes that included some (ALLEGED) drug use. also assuming this is the point where someone knows their medications won't conflict etc etc etc

-are these people you trust?
-are there some new faces who may not know what your deal is yet (you can explain your shit to them ofc)? is that ok?
-do you feel like vulnerability and intimacy around this group is safe and desirable?
-do you know that it's comfortable to change your mind on what you want to do w/ this group?
-do you think your desire to be touched potentially increasing is ok around these folk?
-do you know what substances are on the table?
-have the effects been fully understood by you?
-how much pressure do you feel? this should always be an autonomous decision among the people you do this with
-do you absolutely, really want to do this? you should ALWAYS be allowed to back out whenever you want

idk. any time ive had hot times while substances were involved (and granted i havent done EVERYthing so please understand i cant speak on stuff i havent done), everyone's boundaries remained intact and navigable and consent remained a standard and weren't something that faded away even while we were super goofy and lovey dovey dizzy and whatever. ive never felt hijacked into a situation and no one should

in the end i don't really know how to word this stuff elegantly and i am not by any means a teacher or a health care professional so i can only be so good at Advice...

but i just shout Communication and Preparedness because you can literally never do too much preparation and vetting for this sort of thing - set and setting are tenets of substance use for a good reason!! Regardless of if its a solo trip for a spiritual reset or for wanting it to feel extra good when you're touched by friends

doing drugs that let kinky horny touchy feely stuff be easier terrain to navigate and communicate with people you love and trust is super hot and great but what makes it better is knowing full well ahead of time what to expect and that you can bail if it isn't the wave. you can always come back to shit later if you really want to


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