still working on the thing where you learn not to look down on people
I don't mean people who do really hurtful things, I just mean people who are annoying or have very different tastes from me or make (what seem like) stupid mistakes
there is a genuine skill and effort to extending "wow, it looks like he's having a really tough time" or "aww, I'm glad she's doing what makes her happy" to someone when you have the opportunity to scoff or mock instead
and I was not raised with that skill and the Internet is also a very bad place to learn it
and although it sounds almost self-effacing, like you're trying to make excuses for others, I think you actually have to build up a lot of self-confidence to do this. you have to let go of the urge to affirm your own coolness by demonstrating your keenly honed sense of what's uncool
but this is the person I would like to become
