30, bi. trans indie dev, furry artist, writer, etc.

creator of Super Lesbian Animal RPG
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runs Thanks Ken Penders on Tumblr https://thankskenpenders.tumblr.com/


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i'm always glad to see more nuanced takes on content warnings and tagging on here. everyone always has horror stories about, like, getting yelled at on mastodon for not putting a selfie behind an "eye contact" CW or whatever, but i'll always remember my own horror story from a few years back on tumblr where like. okay so before bed one day i posted a single funny dialogue screenshot from undertale (i believe it was toriel going "who the hell is sans" at the end of the game) after having replayed it. and then i wake up to a message that's just like "tag undertale please." and i just woke up so i leave a kind of snippy response to this demand, which i immediately feel bad about and delete. and then the person comes off anon and messages me directly and i'm like "hey sorry for being cranky, i don't mind tagging things, i went back and tagged the post" and without being prompted they just completely go off on me explaining their personal trauma that makes undertale a trigger for them, and then they proceed to get mad at me for "making them" share all this personal info that i absolutely did not ask for, and then they declare that they're going to tell everyone they know to boycott my game because i'm an asshole to trauma victims. i never heard from this person again but at the time i was genuinely terrified that this interaction was going to turn into an overblown callout that haunted me for the rest of my career, all because i didn't tag a single screenshot of undertale

some people, man


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in reply to @ponett's post:

Yeahhhh like… there’s a weird balancing act with CWs and in some spaces they’re so wildly overdone, to the point that, like in your case, they have the opposite effect of what they should. Like- yeah, stuff that could be generally distressing in most obvious cases should be CW’d, but I feel like in cases like that, the onus is on the person to address their problems, not… leave it as a landmine. And this is from someone with diagnosed PTSD, this is from an honest to god trauma survivor, if I know something is gonna be hard for me to process, to some degree it’s on me to avoid or work through it.

I wonder if it was the same person who I was mutuals with on twitter ages ago, who asked people tag anything Undertale related so I did (including not RTing anything that had Undertale characters in an image if it didn't say the name in the tweet), until I RTed something like "wow it's wild seeing Toby Fox's music in smash bros" at which point that person angry tweeted about how awful and insensitive I was and tagged me in it.

Reminds me of how someone I was once mutuals with on Tumblr asked me to trigger tag certain characters due to having bad kin memories pertaining to said characters. I did oblige them, but looking back I do find it kind of stupid to have to make separate tags for characters I was at least okay with because someone (who was actually kind of a shit friend in hindsight) didn't want to see them.