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I can't pretend to have solved this problem* but whatever progress I've made toward it has come with an acceptance that being bad at something is part of the process of getting good at it. This is hard, because my inner perfectionist hates it when I fail and am bad at things so I have to soothe it by asserting that it's okay that I suck--in fact, sucking is the point. Just doing the thing--bad or not--is the goal early on, and caring about being perfect (or even good) comes much later.

*My desire to learn how to play guitar has been stymied for a couple of weeks because I am somehow afraid of buying it wrong

Ive sorta had to struggle woth this issue for a while, the best generic answer i can give is to do something the kids call cognitive restructuring, constantly remond yourself that it's ok not to be instantly great at eveything you do, and to celebrate the small bits of improvement you make.

This way you go from thinking about how much you fall short of the greats and enjoy the activity for it own sake, or for how well you improve at it yourself.

It's not an easy route especially since depending on how much you do or dont self deprecate you'll have to keep babysitting your brain to make sure it's not being mean to yourself, but i think it can make a big difference.

Hi, cursed "child genius" here. I understand perfectly well what you're talking about. These days I enjoy picking up new skills despite being absolutely terrible at all of them, (though I still do have that emotional need in the back of my mind to hide my terribleness at something when starting out learning to do something,,,,,,,,).

Do you want to improve at something or not? If you do you, you already know that implies you are shit at it. Embrace that. You're a beginner. You don't get to use that excuse as often 6 years down the line. Be bad. Play with that badness. An infant doesn't care, and infant just does. Turn off the brain.

Hopefully, six years down the line in a skill you would have gained enough confidence to just be able to do it, despite not yet being world class in that thing :p. In the end, you'll never be "good enough" for yourself no matter how good you are — at least that's how I personally feel about most of my 'skills'.

If you believe you're good enough at something you'll never have the drive to improve, and you'll plateau and be stuck at that level with for life. This is also why I feel early performers who get 'rewarded' too early by being branded as geniuses almost always get overtaken by the "untalented".

I've recently watched this video whilst looking at resources for drawing fundamentals, and I think it's applicable to more than just drawing; I do find a balance of play (with the expectation and acceptance of failure!) and active learning is a good combination for most things.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ocmPR_EprE

There is a well known bias of attribution when watching how others learn things called the trait ascription bias (This is a type of actor-observer bias).

We tend to make more personal attributions for the behavior of others than we do for ourselves and to make more situational attributions for our own behavior than for the behavior of others.

i.e. One would often attribute other's people speed of learning as an intrinsic part of them as a person. One would ascribe it as their personal trait. Whereas one in oneself would perceive one's own learning as something one actively does as the situation allows, with more nuance and more caveats.

I could give personal examples of this if desired.