so I was having a bit of a sexual identity crisis the past couple days trying to determine whether it'd be fine to use the more well-known and immediately identifiable Lesbian label, or the more niche and less-known but also more inclusive (especially towards my enby partner) Neptunic label. lots of umming and erring at myself, consulting said partner, etc.
then my brain grabbed me by the shoulders and said "just fly both flags you idiot, literally who's gonna stop you???"
now I feel silly for worrying about it so much...