I'm starting to realize how much I didn't like my last relationship, it's not that they were a bad person but they wanted me to be a certain kind of person. Cool and masc and dom and they hated when I would talk about anime or if I did anything "feminine" they didn't even want me to shave and like they never forced me to do anything and they weren't manipulating me I know I could do things they'd dislike and it would be fine but I don't think that's a strong relationship