Worst part of living with an unsafe roommate is knowing that if you advocate for someone else that they're pissed at you'll be the new target, and you CAN'T be the new target rn because if you lose your status as Good Person (they of course, only regard people as Good Person Who Does Nothing Wrong and Terrible Person To The Core Because They Annoyed Me Once) then that means you can't protect another roommate

Idk I'm a long time abuse survivor and firm believer in giving people grace and meeting people where they're at, in taking their intent to heart even when their words aren't perfect, of trying to see the kindness in them even when they're pissing me off. But when a girlie openly admits to wanting the other people she lives with to feel attacked when she speaks to them. What Am I Supposed To Do There