every so often when I write Rafael trying to be Diplomatic the words "ROLL FOR MITHRIDACY" pops into my brain
the thing about Rafael is that he is just always, always, always so so so polite to everyone and everything. and this takes So much work on his part
he is Constantly aware that he is upon a giant chessboard at all times and that a moment of lost self-control, or even just indelicacy, can have so many Consequences. and given that he periodically hangs out with spies, nobles, and Fingerkings, among others, this way of thinking is not totally unwarranted.
but it's so automatic at this point that it's hard for him to drop. and compounding this is the fact that he is very empathetic and very good at understanding other people's points of view and does sincerely want to be polite where possible
just referred to Rafael as "chesspilled" and now I want to wash my brain out with a firehose