I wanna explore all of this through writing, not just a list of words + some of these are subject to change as always, but when it comes to mapping the crew's orientations to current-day lingo, it looks something like this:

• the doctor: kinky sex-positive aroace
• Rafael: pan(romantic/sexual) and polyamorous
• Wren: ace, sex-repulsed, and whatever you call "I fell in love Once and hated it and am glad it hasn't happened again"
• Felix: aro, ace of the "libido without attraction" flavor
• Nathaniel: quoi(romantic/sexual)
• Selcouth (formerly Nova): aroace and conflicted about it
• Nadia: lesbian and happily married

similarly:

• the doctor: full of every kind of love except romantic
• Rafael: has romantic feelings towards many of his friends and is perfectly fine with the fact that they don't return his feelings
• Wren: compares romantic attraction to being poisoned
• Felix: Cannot Comprehend Romance, considers it illogical and baffling
• Nathaniel: has no idea what his relationship with the doctor is, but it makes him happy so who cares about labels
• Selcouth: from a culture where romance is strictly forbidden. they are not sure if they would be able to realize they're having A Romantic Feeling
• Nadia: the relationship consists of her fighting monsters on the sea and descending to the bottom of it every so often to sing about her adventures to her wife who lives there

I did not Mean to make everyone in this group weird (affectionate) about romance in a setting where romance is a Big Deal but I'm having a great time with it

I don't TTRPG and am in fact pretty badly suited for it as a control freak with optimization brainrot BUT

if I had to pick dice for the good doctor, I'd probably combine this violant-y set

and this LoN-ish set

(I really especially like that the latter set is actually softer than the first)

More completely normal and not on fire letters the doctor has sent to people recently:

"The good doctor has somehow caught wind of your advancements in the study of the Correspondence. He congratulates you effusively, in English... and in the Correspondence. One can just do these things as a Correspondent, it seems. Whether one should is another matter altogether. In any case, it's more material for your studies."

"The good doctor, in his letter, thanks you cheerfully for your correspondence. In turn, he invites you to learn something of the Correspondence. From anyone else, it would have been a threat. From the doctor, it's just another opportunity for him to spread knowledge of another kind of Better Words. (Even if those words are on fire.)"

Meanwhile, Rafael's calling card:

"A polite and tasteful reply. Even the card itself is more tasteful than one might expect from a seasoned Silverer - solid, subtly patterned paper, an elegantly handwritten name, a single underline. No viric or cosmogone flourishes. No inlaid mirrors. No Attar finger-marks. Thank God."

Wren, after a successful murder: "I am going to go home. I am going to safely dispose of this remaining poison. I am going to eat an entire bucket of roasted chestnuts. And then I am going to sleep for an entire day."
Rafael: "At least come to our place for that last half? It's drafty at yours this time of year."