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in reply to @taylor-titmouse's post:
word. I feel this "we construct things in the real world and those constructions aren't necessary or helpful in fiction" the most in how consent conversations are often present in fiction these days. and that's y'know, modeling good behavior in real life, but in fiction - especially the sort of fiction that can just tell you what characters are thinking and whether they do in fact consent - it's all scaffolding.
I feel very similarly about that kind of narrative in both what I write or seek out. Playing out a kink for kinks sake in a pristine, sterile environment does not appeal to me. Sex and kink is so much about self discovery, I want the story of how they fell into that kink, not the pasteurized culmination of it. (It's also what's going to keep me reading through pairings or kinks I'm not initially 'there' for, because I'm interested in the dynamic for the whole of narrative)
I coined a term my friends and I use for this specific sort of 'flavor' of narrative preference, as 'context sexual'. We don't want just the kink for kinks sake, we need a narrative that makes the kink important, to make it worth engaging with.
reading this makes me think about what each scenario is actually getting out of the fantasy. it seems to me like the people into consent and safe word talks in fiction are more looking for the fantasy of a safe kink scene than a fantasy of the kink. I always end up feeling like I'm taking in a high school psa when they're heavy on the characters' consent and I guess that's because I'm not here for the fantasy of a consensual sex life? much to think about
