Hello everyone, I assume you've seen my posts starting from the beginning of the week about being homeless abroad, with 70 euros, without a passport, even being allowed to come back later to get any of my belongings. I was told to contact a social worker who's on vacation and that if I try to visit the house again to collect my stuff, they would call the cops on me. My phone number and all online accounts are blocked, so I can't contact her to ask for it back.
Eventually I was told by ex-gf's social worker that they might look for my passport, and if they found it, hand it to a police station. On thursday, I got it from a police station. But that social worker refused to discuss my other belongings and now no longer answers me either.
I started a gofundme for a survival fund. The response was amazing. I didn't expect so many people would help, or that they'd help so much. I still don't know what to say to all the people who came forward for me.
On the 1st I went to an appointment to see my doctor about ways to deal with my ADHD. Instead we ended up talking about my situation, inability to sleep at the homeless shelter etc. She was kind and has been emailing me to make sure I am ok. She gave me some earplugs.
The night after that was the worst one ever at the shelter. The guy I shared a cabin with was becoming erratic and demanding and I was too exhausted and stressed to defend myself from him. So I begged on here and on twitter that I REALLY needed someone in Netherlands to let me sleep on a spare bed.
Someone did.
mastodon user Melymnia@cdrom.tokyo reached out on twitter and offered that I could stay with her and her boyfriend for a little bit, and I accepted.
It was a long journey but I made it, and it turns out they're both really cool people. Now I've got a clean bed in their spare room to sleep in, a table to use my laptop on, wifi, I can shower properly, and I don't have to travel all the way to mcdonalds just to use a toilet. They let me use the washing machine, and gave me something to wear until it dries.
These people don't know me at all, but they know someone I do know, just about, and they decided to open their home to me. I feel so lucky. I feel much better, I can finally sleep alright.
Next tuesday, the social worker who I was told to call will finally be back. She wants me to meet her in the centre of Nijmegen to discuss what to do. I have no idea really what can happen at this meeting.
Also in the week ahead, I should have all of the money people put in the gofundme.
I have a loose plan.
Lets start by pointing out that all of my belongings remain mine, I haven't abandoned them, I'm just not being allowed to get them. Even with a gofundme, I am not so rich that I can afford to start over from 0.
After tuesday, hopefully there will be a path forward to collect them. Probably not all at once, but I at least want to get the most important or valuable things that I can load into some suitcases. The suitcases are also mine, they're under the bed.
*When there is some clarity about my belongings, and hopefully after I have gotten the most important ones, then I'm going to live at my (retired, elderly) mother's place in England and look for a job there. It's not much, only a small 1 bedroom flat, but the sofa bed there is comfortable.
In England I won't be able to claim any kind of unemployment benefit, because I haven't lived in the country for years. You have to have been resident there for two years at least. So financially it's pretty rough.
My employment opportunities are... bad. But I'll literally be a garbageman if I have to. Work in McDonalds, whatever. I hope that I can make it work.
I'll also have to register to a doctor's office in the UK and put them in contact with my doctor in the netherlands, so that medical information is exchanged.
In the long term I think I'd like to learn blender, or earn some microsoft certs. Maybe it'll turn out easier to go to university in England? I am too old for student loans in Netherlands, now.
I still have to pitch my gofundme and my paypal, even though people already gave more than I ever expected. Maybe there are still some people out there who haven't seen it yet and would help.
The money is going to start vanishing VERY fast if I have to start making lots of train journeys, or renting a hotel room to sort my stuff out in, or buying a plane ticket on only a couple days notice etc. Not to mention, I might end up living off that money in england for over a month or however long until I get a job.
Paypal: robotkyle2022 @ outlook dot com
gofundme: deleted after getting a LOT
Lets go.
