what the FUCK do you do if you NEED HELP and not just a fucking hotline
every thing that can go wrong is and we are both so sick and weak
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assuming this has something to do with the move (and the uhaul thing you mentioned previously), are you still in Austin or are you on your way out of town now?
I used to work for city services (which is part of why I now have PTSD) and I still know about a lot of different possible resources that are not just helplines. i can't promise that any of them will be helpful in your specific situation, but I might be able to point you at something. what is the current situation and what kind of help do you need?
i know what it's like to have everything go wrong when moving. it is absolutely the most stressful thing that people do on a regular basis (that doesn't involve, like, burying somebody), and you are not "weak" if you need assistance
we are still in austin and we have to drive three hours and the truck isnt finished loading because it isnt HERE and i want to die about it
do you have a timeframe for when the truck is going to be available? and is this a situation where the timing is tight, like if you have to be out of the current place by tonight? or is there any flexibility here?
i know what you're feeling right now because I've had to deal with this kind of situation myself. the two big things that I've found can help are:
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step back a bit and examine what's actually gone wrong, what has been finished, what you're waiting on, and what can be pushed back. write these things down, since that will make them concrete, and they will stop whizzing around in your brain as much, which can reduce the overwhelm. if you have the flexibility, consider a Plan B that may make things take longer but reduce the immediate stress level. once, we ended up packing everything into a truck except a mattress and a change of clothes, staying in the old place overnight, and leaving in the morning instead
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eat something, preferably something that's comfortable junk, if possible. there's a reason that people buy pizza for their friends to help them move. it's very easy to forget to stop and eat on days where there are a thousand things to do, and when a problem occurs, it feels so much worse if you're hungry
i would offer some personal help but 1) my partner is in borderline crisis right now and I can't leave them, and 2) I don't own a car so unless you're in the vicinity of 51st and Cameron, I don't have a way to get there and back
i wanted to say something because it has been bothering me: do not negate the self-reporting of strangers out of hand. it is an immensely unkind act. i am not making a value judgement when i say my body is weak; i am severely disabled and my muscles do not work good. there was legitimately a worry that i would not be able to produce enough effort to keep the whole trip from being fucked up, and that was in fact very nearly what happened. we barely made it. i appreciate your motive, but my entire life has been marked by the violence of people dismissing my needs
ah. that is entirely on me. I made the incorrect assumption that your use of the word "weak" was (as you said) a value judgement about an emotional state, not an objective statement about your physical capabilities. you seemed to be in an emotional crisis, and I got the cause and effect backwards
thank you for speaking up, because otherwise I would not have realized what had happened. I'm sorry for making an assumption like that, and I'll try to do better in the future
that said, my intent was not to be dismissive of your needs, only to state that there is nothing wrong with needing assistance, whether due to physical or psychological, permanent or temporary disability. I still stepped in it, mind you, but I was in no way trying to be dismissive