because i dont know if she is just heinously incompetent or someone i need to be ready to defend myself from
either way bar only a few rare examples the people who have hurt me the most are always the people who say they want to help and i am about to flay myself about it
"please, let me help you" reveals complicated life "uh ew no thanks" is the basic pattern that owes me blood and i am tired of not being surprised anymore