i have been taught in action, repeatedly, that people generally do not understand the difference between setting boundaries and claiming territory. i need to talk about it exactly as much as i am afraid to talk about it.
the gist of it is, people with power who havent had enough therapy tend to rampage through the world, interpersonally. theyre conspicuous. even the ones who are "nice" and "caring" but only on their terms, if youre a rewarding and undemanding project.
when you go for a long enough time without even nominal control of a space for yourself, the space other people feel entitled to is like a big fucking raid boss aoe indicator on your vision at all times.
the problem is that living like this is highly conducive to developing a variety of interesting mental disorders, so i am constantly having to correct my impulses. i keep giving "reasonable" benefit of the doubt to people who keep taking far beyond that despite my most insane little fantasies warning me that this is dangerous, because it is the safest way to remain not homeless
nobody understands a threat they do not feel
i wouldnt wish this on anyone, fellow traveler